WELLNESS WEALTH KENYA

When we talk about millennials, the reference represents those born between 1981 and 1996. Anyone born from 1997 moving forward falls into the category of the new generation known as Generation Z. Both generations are in existence in a world with a tremendous improvement in technology, economic advancement, and political appraises. Despite the evolution in different things, one thing that has seen a downfall is the quality of relationships. Love and friendships are beautiful things, and I believe that we all want to find and cultivate meaningful relationships and friendships that will last a lifetime. Unfortunately, how we are going about all this is wrong.

Friendships.
Friendship is a mutual affection relationship between two or more people bonded by strong interpersonal qualities and attributes. A friend is where we feel seen, heard, and understood; it should be a safe space.

Betrayal and mistrust.
Some people are lucky enough to have established friendships that last or will last a lifetime from a young age. Unfortunately, most people have gone through a series of friendships throughout their life without finding one. If we could buy friendships, then everyone would have their best of friends, but since they require a high level of commitment, patience, openness, only those willing to make the sacrifice succeed at it. Even then, we live in a world where people take advantage of others for their kindness and openness, which has left a back truck of trust issues and trauma. If you have at a certain point experienced betrayal from someone you considered a close friend, it will be very difficult for you to be open to another person even when you need help.
You may have been extremely hurt by a friend that you vow to revenge in some cases. Now you may not be able to hurt the one who hurt you, so you hurt the next person who comes into your life, leaving a trail of dead friendships and traumatized people.

Love and relationships
Romantic relationships are defined as relationships involving emotional and physical intimacy with a sense of exclusivity and commitment to each other. Everyone wants to love and feel loved, and we go most of our lives searching for ‘the one. Some people are lucky to find love at a young age, while for others, it takes a long time to find love. You have probably been in several relationships, and in each, you thought they were the one, but the relationship ended for one reason or the other.

The social media effect.
Social media has played a huge role in the perish of most relationships in this era. We live in a world where everyone and everything is online. Determinates of how well or happy you are doing in life are based on how well you present your life online, whether it’s true or false. Consequently, this has also played a vital role in expressing which relationship is successful compared to what is flaunted online. Celebrity couples have been placed on a pedestal, and we believe that if your partner is not doing what the celebrities are doing online, the relationship is a failure. This particularly has brought most relationships to their deaths.

Need for Immediate gratification
Still, on the social media aspect, few posts online display some level of patience or handwork. The majority of the posts express a sense of immediate gratification, whether with money, wealth, or, in these cases, relationships. Healthy and long-lasting relationships are not built in a day. It involves a high level of commitment to building a strong foundation that holds the relationship together in difficult times. The immediate gratification effect has trickled down to what is known as online dating and the casual hookup culture that is highly praised, which has only made relationships worse.

Face value evaluation.
When choosing a life partner, you probably go for someone who has their life and finances figured out. You may have reasons for doing that, but most people are not willing to be in a relationship with someone who is still figuring their life out. Most of us are retaking people at face value without properly evaluating the character traits that matter in sustaining a relationship. We judge people based on what they have more than who they are. I’m not saying money and wealth are not important in a relationship, but they are not the glue that holds it together.

Conclusion
It might seem impossible to cultivate quality and long-lasting relationships in this era, but all hope is not doomed. Learn to evaluate people based on the character traits that matter to you, take time to build foundations for romantic relationships and friendships, move with genuine intentions, and set healthy boundaries. Lastly, continuously cultivating the relationship while in it will tremendously improve the quality of your interactions.