I’ve seen a lot of my peers parading the concept of emotional unavailability as the ultimate measure of emotional maturity or resilience and in all honesty, I’m sad for us, yes on getting the bag. A lot of us are alone among people and extremely sad while acting happy. The level of plasticity in friendships and romantic relationships is worrying. Being available or open doesn’t make you weak, loving doesn’t make you weak, opening up doesn’t make you weak on the contrary all those things require a tremendous amount of courage to display a world so devoid of genuine connections. We are licking in connections in friendships and love.

Don’t get wrong I understand that the world is an unsafe place to open up given the fear of betrayal and judgment but only because from a personal level no one is according to others’ space to be themselves. We either don’t care because we weren’t cared for, don’t love when we weren’t loved, or don’t forgive because we weren’t forgiven. We have come up with plays and tricks to survive in this dog-eat-dog society making us more machines than humans with real emotions. You might survive but consequently so does the level of loneliness and unhappiness grows. Real is rare and it’s gonna be close to nonexistent at the rate humanity is fleeting. People we think we know commit suicide and we are left shocked, he/she was so happy, could have never seen it coming but the truth is, the signs were always there, cries of help and a huge amount of ignored or downplayed emotions. Build a present and actively listening environment for your loved ones. An act of kindness sparkles another, and from within we can build a better world for ourselves and future generations.

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