WELLNESS WEALTH KENYA

The idea of self Worth is often confused with the idea of self-esteem and confidence. Unlike esteem which is a product of external factors such as success or achievements, self-worth is purely a product of how you view yourself. This includes the beliefs you hold about yourself, either you believe you are good enough to be deserving of something or are a bad person who isn’t deserving of good things. It is devoid of actions. How, do you feel about yourself when you are just relaxing? when things are not going well? When do you make mistakes? When you fail?

Does all the above mean you are not intelligent enough, a good person, or lazy? As humans, in a world full of things that are supposed to fulfill us, we rarely look inward for the same. A day of failure or mistakes puts meaning on so many of us about ourselves and our worth. We, therefore, start looking for validation or comfort from other people, and when we don’t get it, we are shattered even more.

The biggest mistake we make is we build our homes in other people, things, and accomplishments. We build those homes and we decorate them with love, care, and respect that we want to come home or lean-to at the end of the day. We invest in homes in external factors and we evaluate our Self Worth based on how those homes welcome us. And when those people, careers, things walk away, they walk away with those homes. All of a sudden we feel empty because everything we had we put into those homes. We trusted someone or something with a piece of ourselves and when it’s gone we feel unworthy or like we did something to make it leave and we turn the blame on ourselves.

The end of a career, a friendship, or a relationship does not mean you have nothing more to offer, it is just that you built yourself up on things outside of you and when they seize to no longer exist so does your Self Worth.

Self Worth is therefore the internal sense of being good enough and worthy of love and belonging to others.

It is important to have a solid understanding of our strengths and areas for growth, we also need to feel good enough even when we make mistakes or things do not workout in our life as we had hoped. How would you describe your self-worth right now?

Think about, journal, or answer in the comment section.

• What words would you use to describe yourself?
• What value did you place on yourself or aspects of yourself?
• Were your descriptions generally positive, balanced, or negative?
• Where did your messages around your worth come from?